Elopement Planning Myths You Can Totally Ignore

Elopement planning can feel big and scary when you first start. You may hear things that make you worry or feel unsure. Many of these ideas are not true. They are myths. And if you believe them, they can hold you back from creating a day that feels right for you and your partner. That’s why it’s so important to clear up what’s real and what’s not. Once you do, you’ll see how free and fun elopement planning can really be.

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Let’s Bust Some Elopement Myths

Planning an elopement should feel freeing, not stressful. If you know what is real and what is not, you can focus on what matters. You and your partner can make choices that fit your love and your day. Elopement planning gives you the space to slow down and be present. There are no expectations to meet, no long guest lists to manage, and no pressure to follow tradition. It’s about building a day around your connection, one that feels natural, peaceful, and full of meaning.

Let’s get down to it. Here are six common myths about elopement planning you can ditch right now.

Not sure where to say your vows? Check out our blog “How to Choose Your Dream Elopement Backdrop in the Blue Ridge” for tips on finding the perfect spot for your day.

 

Myth #1: Eloping Isn’t “Real” or Meaningful

One big myth is that eloping isn’t “real.” Some people believe your wedding only counts if there’s a big party, but that’s simply not true. Elopement planning is thoughtful and meaningful. It’s about:

• Making choices that reflect your relationship

• Including people who truly matter to you, or keeping it just the two of you

• Choosing a location that feels special, like a forest, mountain, or waterfall

• Sharing vows that come from the heart in a setting that feels calm and connected

Your elopement is real because your love is real. The meaning comes from your choices, not the size of your guest list. This is your story, told in your own way.

 

 

Myth #2: Elopements Don’t Require Planning

Some people think that elopements are easy and do not need planning. They think you just show up and get married. But elopement planning does matter. You still need to consider where you want to go, how you’ll get there, and the overall feeling you want for your day. Some locations may require permits, and choosing the right season or time of day can make a big difference.

Creating a simple timeline can also help everything flow smoothly and keep the day stress-free.  A timeline helps your day flow without stress. You might want to plan what you will wear, how you will eat, and who will celebrate with you. Even though an elopement can be simple, it still needs thought and care. Good elopement planning helps the day feel smooth and joyful.

Not sure when to elope? Read “How to Choose the Perfect Season to Elope in Asheville” to find the best time of year for your dream day.

 

Myth #3: Eloping Is Just a Way to Save Money

Some think eloping is just about saving money. While it can be less expensive, most couples choose it for the peace, freedom, and meaning it brings. Elopement planning lets you spend where it matters, whether that’s keeping it simple or investing in an unforgettable experience. You might choose to:

• Hike to a stunning mountain view

• Have every meaningful moment captured by a photographer included in your elopement package

• Stay in a cozy cabin or boutique rental

• Share a private chef-made meal after your ceremony

• Add personal touches like handwritten vows or a flower-filled picnic

Your budget is part of your elopement planning, but it doesn’t define your day. The most important thing is that your choices reflect what feels right for you as a couple.

Thinking about a weekday elopement? Read “Why More Couples Are Choosing Weekday Elopements in the Mountains” to see the benefits for your big day.

 

 

Myth #4: You Can’t Wear the Dress (or Suit!) of Your Dreams

You might hear that if you elope, you can’t wear a big dress or a fancy suit. That is not true. Elopement planning includes what you want to wear. Your outfit should make you feel great. Love a big dress? Wear it. Prefer something simple? That works too. Want a suit or something bold? Go for it. Elopement planning is about choices, not limits.

Some couples choose outfits that fit the location. If you elope in the mountains, you might want boots. If you choose a beach, you might pick lighter fabrics. But your outfit is up to you. You can have the look you want and still have the freedom and ease of an elopement.

Need help choosing your elopement look? Read “Elopement Wedding Dress Tips, What to Wear on Your Great Adventure” for practical and stylish ideas.

 

Myth #5: There’s No Need for a Photographer or Videographer

Some people think an elopement does not need a photographer or videographer. They think you can just take a few selfies and call it a day. But if you care about memories, a professional is worth it.

When you elope, the day can go by so fast. A photographer helps you slow it down. They capture feelings and moments that you might miss. They know how to find beautiful light and angles in nature. Photos help you remember your day exactly as it felt. Videographers do the same with motion and sound. You can hear vows again. You can feel the breeze, the laughter, and the quiet moments. Your day becomes something you can relive. If you are serious about your memories, include photography or videography in your elopement planning.

Want to relive your elopement for years to come? Read “Why We Love Partnering with Wildwood Media for Elopement Films” to see how they capture the magic.

 

 

Myth #6: You Have to Elope Alone (Or Run Away in Secret)

Some people think that eloping means you run away alone. That you have no one with you. That is a myth. Elopement planning means you choose who you want there. You can include your best friend, your sibling, your child, or your closest family member. You can have 10 people, 2 people, or just 1 officiant. The key is that they matter to you.

Some couples want total alone time. Others want a handful of loved ones to witness their vows. There is no rule that says you must be alone or hide your plans. Elopement planning lets you decide who is part of your day.

Looking for the perfect spot to say “I do” with loved ones? Read “Top Asheville Wedding Venues for Intimate Celebrations and Elopements” to explore our favorite places.

 

The Only “Rule” Is Doing What Feels Right

Here’s the truth: there’s no rule book for love. There’s no single way to get married. Elopement planning is not about following tradition or doing what others expect. It’s about making choices that feel right for you. You don’t plan an elopement to please other people. Instead, you plan it to create a day that feels real, joyful, and true to your story. With thoughtful elopement planning, you can:

• Choose a location that inspires you, whether it’s a mountain overlook, a quiet forest, or a peaceful meadow

• Wear the outfit that makes you feel like yourself, whether that’s a bold dress, a laid-back suit, or something in between

• Invite the people who matter most to you, or share the day with just each other

• Include personal touches like handwritten vows, a private picnic, or a scenic hike

• Capture your memories through photography or video, so you can relive them for years to come

Once you let go of the myths, you make space for a day that’s calm, meaningful, and unforgettable. That’s the beauty of elopement planning, a day designed around what matters most to you.

Feeling pressure to explain your elopement? Read “You Don’t Have to Justify Your Elopement” for a reminder that your choice is valid and meaningful.

 

 

Elopement Planning Is About Choosing What Matters Most

Elopement planning should feel joyful and true to you. You don’t need to follow myths or meet anyone else’s expectations. Your love and your choices are what make the day meaningful. You can wear what you want, invite who you want, and capture every moment. These choices don’t take away from your elopement; they make it stronger. Your day is your story. Plan it in a way that reflects your love, your joy, and your vision.

If you’re ready to leave the myths behind and plan an elopement that feels like you, we’re here to help. Whether it’s just the two of you or a few loved ones in the Asheville mountains, our team will guide you every step of the way. Reach out today to start creating a day that’s simple, meaningful, and all your own.